I am not the type of person who ever feels the need to justify myself or my actions to outsiders, however, if misunderstandings can be avoided and my journey could help others, I am all for putting it out there.
My hubby and I are making a big move. Geographically that is. In actuality I am making a move and he will continue the living apart and traveling to meet me every other week thing. He has already arranged a work schedule to better accommodate the arrangement and is working on a full on transfer to where I will be.
To be perfectly honest, a few weeks ago I almost played it safe and arranged a work transfer to where he is now. That would have been practical, we would have been in the same city, albeit still not able to see one another much due to work schedules. As I was planning this safe bet all out I thought of how this just isn’t where we want to be, it is not where we want to raise a family and it is not a place where our goals and dreams are going to play out. So I made a swift decision to transfer to where we really want to live. Where we met and have lived before and have logged to return. Hubby was happy I made the jump and is excited to find his way there and for me to continue my journey and networking for the position I will love.
There are a lot of people who don’t understand this choice and this maneuver. They don’t support what we are doing and have found the need to point out how we are wrong and foolish. To be quite honest, I feel like for us that safe decision would have been foolish. We should all be putting ourselves in a position to be open to all of life’s blessings. The journey may be hard but the end result is worth it. Sometimes a plan is as simple as listening to that desire in the back of your head that, Similar to a leaky faucet, just won’t stop coming up. So by all means, I recommend making your lists of pros and cons, weighing your options, making spreadsheets and projections and having debates and discussions about the best options available to you. Then, I recommend forgetting it all and going with your heart. Or your gut. Whichever is your thing. Because no matter how practical a maneuver may seem, you will not see success until you are able to take a chance for it.